Saturday, September 26, 2009

Sex Education for Children, is it necessary?

By Azys Syaiful Anwar
In Indonesia, sex is still considered as taboo matter to be discussed. Some people think that sex must be about pornography or nudity. As a result, they never think to talk about sex in public, and to their children either. Then, how if children ask parents where is baby origin? Most of people in my community may answer with different point answer, such as it comes from heaven, and the others may ignore their children questions by saying ‘you don’t have to know about that, Son’. These answers may not be a solution for some children having high curiosity of knowledge. The main question in my mind, is it necessary giving children knowledge about sex?
As discussed above, sex is not only about pornography or sexual activity. According to Concise Oxford Dictionary Eleventh Edition, there are two definition of sex:


1. either of the two main categories (male and female) into which humans and most other living things are divided on the basis of their reproductive functions. (1.2) The fact of belonging to one of these categories. (1.3) The group of all members of either sex.
2. sexual activity, specifically sexual intercourse. (euphemistic) A person's genitals.


Regarding those definition, sex also related to male/female reproductive function and some matter related to that. Since sex is still taboo matter in some communities, introducing sex to children is often ignored.
           Parents can start to give understanding about sex to children by explaining about gender. Telling whether your kid is a girl or boy is important to avoid the digression. Parents can start to tell their kid about gender even when their kid is still a baby. For example, if parents have a girl they can give her many girly things. Parents can give girly toys, such as doll, kitchen set toys, etc. This intends to avoid their daughter becoming boyish.
             When children growing older, parents may give them understanding about some matter related to their kid’s genital. Children must know that it is private and they cannot show it in public. Some parents in my community sometimes let their kid walking around without wearing pants, or they even let their kids pee anywhere. However, it is important to habituate kids to wear proper suit.
            Reaching teenage, children may become more complex because they have both childish and adult side. Parents need to emphasize to giving understanding about some puberty indication, including menstruation for a girl, and the difference pitch of voice for a boy. Parents need to guide them wisely. In this age, children also already attracted to their opposite sex. Because of that, parents have to explain that there are some constraints of having relationship with opposite sex. This is to avoid free sex that endangers their reproductive organ. Teach them to avoid free sex is better than advice them to use condom while having a sex intercourse.
26/SEPT/09

17 comments:

bayunature September 26, 2009 at 9:10 PM  

difficulties may be due to the eastern custom which is still taboo about sex .... interesting article bro..!!:)

Kibagus September 27, 2009 at 2:50 PM  
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Kibagus September 27, 2009 at 2:52 PM  

now day article about sexs can find any where..
for that i think sex education for children is important..!!!
nice posting....
thansk...!!

nada September 27, 2009 at 3:04 PM  

info yang keren bang
mantabss

NURA September 27, 2009 at 3:13 PM  

salam sobat
siip artikelnya

saya tambah pengetahuan tentang sex education for children di blog keren ini.

narti September 27, 2009 at 3:15 PM  

menurutku penting buat anak-anak, agar tidak salah langkah karena kita tinggal dgn budaya ketimuran. tabu bagi sebagian orang aku rasa hal yg wajar.

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Buaya Darat September 27, 2009 at 7:36 PM  

where internet was available, sex and pornography was abundance. not only adults can access them freely but child as young as 9yrs are known to have accessed to these sites. i think sex education is a must, even though when we said or discuss about sex, its make the eastern communities feel uneasy.

sewa komputer dan printer September 28, 2009 at 5:23 PM  

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AmerSH September 28, 2009 at 6:00 PM  

bagus tu menag bagu.. tapi perlu dikaji betul2 kerana zaman sekarang bukan seperti zaman dulu dimana anak2 sentiasa memikirkan ibu/bapa sebelum bertindak apa2. kalo pendidikan seks ini tidak dipantau/dikawal dengan serapi2nya mahu aje si anak2 ada perasaan untuk mencuba pula!!!
sekadar pandangan...

the sun shine September 28, 2009 at 6:14 PM  

Oleh karena itu pula, pendidikan seks itu juga sebagai salah satu pencegahan bang, seandainya tidak ada pengarahan dari yang tua mungkin akan terlalu riskan

Teplok September 28, 2009 at 9:10 PM  

An I'm one of the ones who feel taboo to discuss it, unless for joking sometimes.

I had same question when I was a kid, and found no answers, then I found the truth that was totally opposite to my childish thoughts that time. hahaha, child likes imagining.

nice article, good post, keep posting!

Mas September 28, 2009 at 9:56 PM  

setuju benar dengan cadangan ini. sudah sampai masanya masyarakat timur perpandangan lebih jauh tentang sek. jangan dipandang dari perspektif negatif, tapi harus lebih rasional terhadap didikan anak-anak tentang bahaya sek bebas.

Aneuk Nanggroe September 28, 2009 at 11:26 PM  

Great article.. My baby still 4 month but i think i will keep this until he grow up and tell him when his ready..
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sewa komputer dan printer September 29, 2009 at 9:36 AM  

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